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How to Love Unconditionally

Source: iloveulove

From “Friendship with God

How can I love

unconditionally and unlimitedly?

 

The first step in being fully loving is that you must fully love your Self. And this you cannot do so long as you believe that you were born in sin, and are basically evil.

If you believe that humans are by nature non-trustworthy and evil, you will create a society that supports that view, then enact laws, approve rules, adopt regulations, and impose restraints that are justified by it.

If you believe that humans are by nature trustworthy and good, you will create an entirely different kind of society, in which laws, rules, regulations, and restraints are rarely required. The first society will be freedom limiting, the second, freedom giving.

God is fully loving because God is fully free. To be fully free is to be fully joyful, because full freedom creates the space for every joyful experience. Freedom is the basic nature of God. It is also the basic nature of the human soul. The degree to which you are not fully free is the degree to which you are not fully joyful and that is the degree to which you are not fully loving.

To be totally loving means to be fully free.

We should allow everyone to be able to do anything they want.

That is how God loves. God allows everyone to do anything they want.

It is normal in your society to punish. It is abnormal in your society to simply allow a consequence to assert itself to reveal itself.

Punishments are your announcement that you are too impatient to await a natural outcome. Punishments are someone else’s decision that one has done wrong.

Consequences are one’s own experience that something does not work. That is, it did not produce an intended result.

In other words, we do not learn quickly from punishments, because we see them as something that someone else is doing to us. We learn more readily from consequences, because we see them as something that we are doing to ourselves.

The biggest punishment that you have devised is the withholding of your love. You have shown your offspring that if they behave in a certain way, you will withhold your love. It is by the granting and the withholding of your love that you have sought to regulate and modify, to control and to create, your children’s behaviors.

This is something that God would never do.

True love never withdraws itself. And that is what loving fully means.

I am love. One does not have to practice what one is, one simply is it.

I am the love that knows no condition, nor limitation of any kind.

I am totally loving, and to be totally loving means to be willing to give every mature sentient being total freedom to be, do, and have that which they wish.

Even if you know it will be bad for them?

It is not for you to decide that for them.

Not even for our children?

If they are mature sentient beings, no. If they are grown children, no. And if they are not yet mature, the fastest way to lead them to their own maturity is to allow them the freedom to make as many choices as possible as early as practical.

This is what love does. Love lets go. That which you call need, and which you often confuse with love, does the opposite. Need holds on. This is the way you can tell the difference between love and need. Love lets go, need holds on.

So to be totally loving, I let go?

Among other things, yes. Let go of expectation, let go of requirements and rules and regulations that you would impose on your loved ones. For they are not loved if they are restricted. Not totally.

Nor are you; you do not love yourself totally when you restrict yourself, when you grant yourself less than total freedom, in any matter.

Yet remember that choices are not restrictions. So do not call the choices you have made restrictions. And lovingly provide for your offspring, and all your loved ones, all the information that you feel you may have, to help them make good choices – “good” being defined here as those choices most likely to produce a particular desired result, as well as what you know to be their largest desired result: a happy life.

Share what you know about that. Offer what you have come to understand. Yet do not seek to impose your ideas, your rules, your choices upon another and do not withhold your love should another make choices you would not make. Indeed, if you believe their choices to have been poor ones, that is precisely the time to show your love.

That is compassion, and there is no higher expression.

What else does it mean to be totally loving?

It means to be fully present, in every single moment. To be fully aware. To be fully open, honest, transparent. It means to be fully willing, to express the love that is in your heart full out. To be fully loving means to be fully naked, without hidden agenda or hidden motive, without hidden anything.

And you say that it is possible for human beings, for regular people like me, to achieve such love? This is something of which we are all capable?

It is more than that of which you are capable. It is that which you are. This is the nature of Who You Are. The most difficult thing that you do is to deny that. And you are doing this difficult thing every day. It is why your life feels so difficult. Yet when you do the easy thing, when you decide to come from, to be, Who You Really Are – which is pure love, unlimited and unconditioned-then your life becomes easy again. All the turmoil disappears, all the struggle goes away.

This peace may be achieved in any given moment. The way to it may be found by asking a simple question:

What would love do now?

This is a marvelous question, because you will always know the answer. It is like magic. It is cleansing, like a soap. It takes the worry out of being close. It washes away all doubt, all fear. It bathes the mind with the wisdom of the soul.

What a good way of putting that.

It is true. When you ask this question, you will know instantly what to do. In any circumstance, under any condition, you will know. You will be given the answer. You are the answer, and asking the question brings forth that part of you.

Do not second-guess this answer when it instantly comes to you. When you second-guess is when you fool yourself – and can make a fool of yourself. Go into the heart of love, and come from that place in all your choices and decisions, and you will find peace.

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A Glass Of Milk – Segelas Susu

Source: llerrah.com 

One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry.

He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, “How much do I owe you?” “You don’t owe me anything,” she replied. “Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness.” He said….. “Then I thank you from my heart.”As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was stronger also. He had been ready to give up and quit.

Years later, that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, the light of recognition filled his eyes. Immediately, he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.


Dressed in his doctor’s gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room even more determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to her case.After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, and then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill.

She read these words, paid in full with one glass of milk.・(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly.


Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: Thank you Lord, that your love has spread through human hearts and hands.

 

Suatu hari, seorang anak lelaki miskin yang hidup dari menjual
asongan dari pintu ke pintu, menemukan bahwa dikantongnya hanya
tersisa beberapa sen uangnya, dan dia sangat lapar.
     Anak lelaki tersebut memutuskan untuk meminta makanan dari
rumah berikutnya. Akan tetapi anak itu kehilangan keberanian saat
seorang wanita muda membuka pintu rumah. Anak itu tidak jadi meminta
makanan, ia hanya berani meminta segelas air.   Wanita muda tersebut
melihat, dan berpikir bahwa anak lelaki tersebut pastilah lapar,
oleh karena itu ia membawakan segelas besar susu.   Anak lelaki itu
meminumnya dengan lambat, dan kemudian bertanya, “berapa saya harus
membayar untuk segelas besar susu ini ?” Wanita itu menjawab:
“Kamu tidak perlu membayar apapun”. “Ibu kami mengajarkan untuk
tidak menerima bayaran untuk kebaikan” kata wanita itu
menambahkan.

Anak lelaki itu kemudian menghabiskan susunya dan
berkata :” Dari dalam hatiku aku berterima kasih pada anda.”
Bertahun-tahun kemudian, wanita muda tersebut mengalami sakit yang
sangat kritis. Para dokter dikota itu sudah tidak sanggup
menganganinya. Mereka akhirnya mengirimnya ke kota besar, dimana
terdapat dokter spesialis yang mampu menangani penyakit langka
tersebut.      

Dr. Howard dipanggil untuk melakukan pemeriksaan.
Pada saat ia mendengar nama kota asal si wanita tersebut, terbersit
seberkas pancaran aneh pada mata Dr. Howard. Segera ia bangkit dan
bergegas turun melalui hall rumahsakit, menuju kamar si wanita
tersebut.        

Dengan berpakaian jubah kedokteran ia menemui si
wanita itu.   Ia langsung mengenali wanita itu pada sekali pandang.
Ia kemudian kembali ke ruang konsultasi dan memutuskan untuk
melakukan upaya
 terbaik untuk menyelamatkan nyawa wanita itu. Mulai hari itu, Ia
selalu memberikan perhatian khusus pada kasus wanita itu.
Setelah melalui perjuangan yang panjang, akhirnya diperoleh
kemenangan.. . Wanita itu sembuh !!. Dr. Howard meminta bagian
keuangan rumah sakit untuk mengirimkan seluruh tagihan biaya
pengobatan kepadanya untuk persetujuan. Dr. Howard melihatnya, dan
menuliskan sesuatu pada pojok atas lembar tagihan, dan kemudian
mengirimkannya ke kamar pasien.      

Wanita itu takut untuk membuka
tagihan tersebut, ia sangat yakin bahwa ia tak akan mampu membayar
tagihan tersebut walaupun harus diangsur seumur hidupnya. Akhirnya
Ia memberanikan diri untuk membaca tagihan tersebut, dan ada sesuatu
yang menarik perhatiannya pada pojok atas lembar tagihan tersebut.
Ia membaca tulisan yang berbunyi..”Telah dibayar lunas dengan
segelas besar susu !!” tertanda, Dr. Howard Kelly.      

Air mata
kebahagiaan membanjiri matanya. Ia berdoa:
“Tuhan, Terima kasih, bahwa cintamu telah memenuhi
 seluruh bumi melalui hati dan tangan manusia.”

 Tears of Joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart
 prayed : “Thank you Lord, that your love has
 spread through human hearts and hands”
 ~Margi Harrell~

M.A.T.A.H.A.R.I

Seorang wanita bertanya pada seorang pria tentang cinta dan harapan.
Wanita berkata ingin menjadi bunga terindah di dunia.
Dan pria berkata ingin menjadi matahari.
Wanita tidak mengerti kenapa pria ingin jadi matahari,

bukan kupu kupu atau kumbang yang bisa terus menemani
bunga…

Wanita berkata ingin menjadi rembulan
dan pria berkata ingin tetap menjadi matahari.
Wanita semakin bingung karena matahari dan bulan tidak bisa bertemu,
tetapi pria ingin tetap jadi matahari….
Wanita berkata ingin menjadi Phoenix…
yang bisa terbang ke langit jauh di atas matahari,
dan pria berkata ia akan selalu menjadi matahari….
Wanita tersenyum pahit dan kecewa.
Wanita sudah berubah tiga kali…
namun pria tetap keras kepala ingin jadi matahari,
tanpa mau ikut berubah bersama wanita.
Maka wanita pun pergi dan tak pernah lagi kembali
tanpa pernah tahu alasan kenapa pria tetap menjadi
matahari….

Pria merenung sendiri dan menatap matahari.
Saat wanita jadi bunga, pria ingin menjadi matahari agar bunga dapat terus hidup.
Matahari akan memberikan semua sinarnya untuk bunga agar ia tumbuh, berkembang…
dan terus hidup sebagai bunga yang cantik.
Walau matahari tahu ia hanya dapat memandang dari jauh dan pada akhirnya kupu kupu yang akan menari bersama bunga.
Ini disebut Kasih…..
yaitu memberi tanpa pamrih.

Saat wanita jadi bulan, pria tetap menjadi matahari…..
agar bulan dapat terus bersinar indah dan dikagumi.
Cahaya bulan yang indah hanyalah pantulan cahaya matahari,
tetapi saat semua makhluk mengagumi bulan,
siapakah yang ingat kepada matahari?
Matahari rela memberikan cahayanya untuk bulan walaupun ia sendiri tidak bisa menikmati cahaya bulan…
dilupakan jasanya dan kehilangan kemuliaannya sebagai pemberi cahaya agar bulan mendapatkan kemuliaan tersebut….
Ini disebut dengan Pengorbanan…
menyakitkan namun sangat layak untuk cinta.
Saat wanita jadi phoenix yang dapat terbang tinggi, jauh ke langit bahkan di atas matahari…
Pria tetap selalu jadi matahari agar phoenix bebas untuk pergi kapan pun ia mau
dan matahari tidak akan mencegahnya.
Matahari rela melepaskan phoenix untuk pergi jauh, namun matahari akan selalu menyimpan cinta yang membara di dalam hatinya hanya untuk phoenix.
Matahari selalu ada untuk phoenix kapan pun ia mau kembali walau phoenix tidak selalu ada untuk matahari.
Tidak akan ada makhluk lain selain phoenix yang bisa masuk ke dalam matahari dan mendapatkan cintanya…..
Ini disebut dengan Kesetiaan…..
walaupun ditinggal pergi dan dikhianati, namun tetap menanti dan mau memaafkan.
Untuk para wanita…..
Siapakah Matahari yang ada di dalam kehidupanmu??
Bila engkau sudah menemukan dan melihat Matahari dalam kehidupanmu…pergi,lihat dan jangan pernah meninggalkannya